Thursday, May 19, 2005

Bambino's Juicy Gossip Column, No. 1

Note from Edward_: My boyfriend/partner/husband (one day)...I call him "Bambino"...knew very little about contemporary art when we met (nearly 4 years ago now), but he's always been incredibly supportive and the truth is, I couldn't do half of what I'm doing without him. English is his 4th and newest language, but he's wonderfully fluent in flirting in any language and continues to amaze me and my friends (who've been networking in the art world for years) with how easily he'll meet someone and start up a friendship. Literally, if there's a famous curator or collector or whomever at a party that I want to meet, I just point that person out and within 10 minutes Bambino has totally charmed that person and is introducing me. Often, after we leave a party, I have to tell him how famous his new fan is in art circles, but he rarely cares. He judges people based on the social currency most valuable to him: how juicy their gossip is.

So I've invited Bambino to share his networking secrets and juiciest stories in a series we'll call "Bambino's Juicy Gossip Column." If you're in the art world (or any scene where contacts are important) and want to brush up on your networking skills, I highly recommend taking note.


"Dancing around the Art Crowd"

Here are my thoughts about being surrounded by the talented, young, old, famous, unfamous, rich crowd in the NY art world. Based on my personal experience I think if you are a person who loves and appreciates art, likes to be seen in art world, enjoys conversation and some gossip, it's easy to join that crowd and earn a lot of new friends and make a new circle of friends if you would have enough time for everyone.

But there are a lot of things you have to go to and attend. It doesn't come to you.

As a non art person (I am not a big collector yet, I am not an artist,
and I am not an art dealer), I really do enjoy going to art openings, meeting new people, checking out who is there, what they wear, how they look and more importantly introducing people to each other. It's really easy for me to introduce them to each other, as I can be generous to any person with compliments and am a totally non shy person. It's a piece of cake.

Here is how I met my latest famous artist whom I had no idea who it was until we left the opening. Another artist introduced us to a woman who said she's the wife of an artist. I really enjoyed this "wife's" company...such a lovely lady. (I think I have found another source for fresh gossip, if I'll see her again.) After having a few drinks and gossiping, her husband came up. Edward later told me he was the world-famous painter Philip Pearlstein. Anyway, my point is that we didn't have to do anything to meet her husband, she introduced us to him. They were just nice people to me.

My point is, don't be shy, be happy, give away compliments, smile and you'll see it's easy to meet new people. As the famous Russian children song says, "Friendships start with smile."

Dilin kemigi yoktur
("The tongue has no bones")


Anonymous Anonymous said...

Good advice. I have an art opening tonight and I'll try and use it. If I come up with any good gossip I'll be sure and pass it on.

5/19/2005 03:05:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

4 languages? I'm so jealous as I can barely speak English, my native tongue.

5/19/2005 03:13:00 PM  
Anonymous la artist said...

Trust me - smiling is not enough. Maybe sly smiling is enough but regular smiling isn't.

5/19/2005 08:08:00 PM  
Blogger Edward_ said...

I don't know la artist. I watched Bambino do it again at a party last night. This time in a crowd that included famous actors and one celebrity best known for having been married to a brother of Prince Charles. The fact that several of the actors knew him by name and kissed him goodbye when he left, having only met him that evening, suggested to me there's something in what he's saying.

Clearly, he has a gift for it, but I've seen it happen. It truly begins with a smile.

5/20/2005 09:43:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Why no real gossip? WHY?

5/20/2005 05:09:00 PM  
Blogger Edward_ said...

I told bambino you asked "why no real gossip" and he asked "who's that?"

I told him "anonymous" and he snorted and said "Show me what you got."

he's like that...very much to the point.

5/20/2005 09:06:00 PM  
Anonymous Martin said...

That was the lamest most unjuiciest gossip column I have ever read.

What happened to "Artist of the Week"? That was much bettttter.

5/21/2005 03:59:00 PM  
Blogger Edward_ said...

artist of the week is every monday.

5/21/2005 06:57:00 PM  
Blogger Edward_ said...

In bambino's defense, he's wanting to post what he knows about a NY dealer who's on the brink of closing, owes the gallery artists tons of cash, owes months of back rent, and is very likely headed for court, but I keep discouraging him...

I think I need to surrender that column to him and let the chips fall where they may...

5/21/2005 07:27:00 PM  
Blogger Jackmormon said...

Maybe il bambino could start with such blind items, so you could figure out what sort of trouble reporting real names might get you into...

5/21/2005 08:13:00 PM  
Blogger Edward_ said...

I agree Jackmormon...I'll have a word with him.

5/21/2005 08:32:00 PM  

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